Illusions of Grandeur

It is very likely that at some point in your journey back to your original self you will spend some time in celibacy.  The first thing that you might think of when you learn that some people are celibate could  be that they are unattractive and no one wants to be with them, but the definition of beauty and desirability is definitely in the eye of the beholder.  You have probably been out shopping  and seen couples together whom you couldn’t imagine in your wildest dreams being attracted to, but there they are, with a lover or spouse that seems to think very highly of them. Physical beauty alone is not always the dominating force behind attraction, although advertising would have you believe otherwise. Do your best not to fall into this trap. Once you have fallen victim to this mentality it is extremely difficult to disentangle yourself from the lie.  You will never get to the heart and soul of another human being or yourself if this is your only criteria for meeting and mating.  Truly, some people don’t give one damn about the heart and soul of the person that they want to bed.  This is unfortunate because in reality if you cannot see others as  people, just like you and not objects for your use, then you are half-ass playing at being human.  If your eyes and your genitals are the only parts of you that you use to allow yourself to feel love and affection you are missing the entire point of life, love, and the sexual expression which evolves from that.  Not to mention that your beliefs about yourself are askew.  This kind of mentality is what breeds all of the societal problems associated with promiscuous sex and the use and abuse of others for self gratification.  It does not matter what you read or see in magazines, movies, advertising, or anything that other people may be doing, you are being selfish and gluttonous and are a major contributor to the myth that other people are here to serve your needs.  

Our attitudes and beliefs about sex are not our own unless we have done extensive observation and soul searching.  They are a product of advertising, peer pressure, cultural gender assignment and ignorance.  These heaps of garbage that shape our attitudes are a huge stumbling block to development of your true self and the evolution of your soul.  This is the primary reason that, if you are called upon to rise above ignorance, celibacy will undoubtedly be on the agenda. For there is absolutely no other way to disentangle yourself from the deceit of marketing, the selfishness of abuse, the illusion of power, and the making of money using sex without stepping away from these things and taking a hard look at your personal contribution to the problems.  It is mandatory that you extricate yourself from the source of the illusion for you to ever recognize the essence of what must be done to stop the insanity and be your true self.  Make no mistake about it, it is you and you alone who must take this step.  It does not matter what other people say, do, think, feel, act upon, watch on television, see in films, read in magazines, or talk about in the bedroom, the locker room, the boardroom, or the classroom.  All sexual misinformation and control issues emanate from the individual. It really is necessary for you to establish your own beliefs about sex and the sexual act or you will forever be a slave to whatever current culture is dishing out to you in the form of propaganda which is only designed to separate you from your money and create fear by victimizing us. This victimization takes many forms but it has at it’s core in every case the illusion of empowerment and enslavement of others. If you are complicit, and I say complicit because that is what you are if you support in any form the assumption that another human being is yours to use for self gratification, then you are just as responsible for the continuation of abuse that exists in sexual expression in this world.  You may not rape anyone but if you do not speak out against those who have, you are complicit.  You may not buy porn but if you support friends who do and say nothing when they view it in your presence you are complicit. If you join in on conversations about the opposite sex that degrade and insult, you are complicit. If you have sex with a person that you care nothing for except to gain gratification for yourself, you are complicit.  This complicity is causing a great many new problems for our culture that has gotten so bad that the State of California felt compelled to try to legislate pure stupidity out of the populace by passing a “yes means yes” law.  It is hard to believe that such incredible ignorance exists, but until each individual on the planet takes personal responsibility for their contribution to these problems of lack of awareness of self you are going to see more and more of this kind of enforcement of (what should be) just common sense.

Not everyone will find themselves at the crossroads of whether or not they will continue to engage in sexual complicity or step away and go back to the origins of what is causing all of the madness, but if you do, be prepared to fly completely solo on this one because the superiority and power gained from using others as sexual toys is a game that no one wants to willingly stop playing once they are in it.  If you find yourself in celibacy, you will most likely find yourself alone in other areas of your life as well because no one engaged in the behavior will want to know why you are doing it.  They will be too afraid that your intelligence might rub off on them.  But this is not as terrible a thing as you might imagine.  Once you get past the initial shock of it, you will find that it has freed you from a mental prison that is a constant source of frustration in reality, and it will give you a new clarity of vision that is nearly impossible to attain unless you stop participating in the mass hypnosis of unreality.

At the beginning of this call to recognize the illusions of sex you may initially be hit with a situation of finding that there is no one that you feel attracted to or there appears to be no one attracted to you.  Your first thought may be that suddenly you are no longer attractive.  If you have developed any psychic ability by now you most likely will be told in dreams that this is not the case.  You can choose to recognize this or not.  The ego many times will not allow your true psychic sense to advise you.  A mentor of mine once told me that a person’s own neurosis can change a reading.  Their neurosis can also prevent them from seeing the truth of the learning experience that they are currently working with as well.  If you were attractive before you don’t need to assume that you are suddenly ugly now.  Most people will allow life to give them a short period of celibacy and they may even make the choice themselves if they have had a recent unpleasant experience in a relationship, but if it happens to last more than a few months they may feel like they are owed a sexual encounter and seek one with the attitude that “any love is good love”.  Just remember that the sexual act isn’t love.  It can manifest as a result of love but it truly is not love, or rape and abuse would not occur.  If you give in to the urge to break from celibacy without life having given you the freedom to do so naturally, expect life to hit you again in the ego and the crotch.  Sometimes problems with your sexual apparatus will occur to keep you out of someone else’s bed.   Here again, if you haven’t been listening to what the universe says to you on a daily (or nightly) basis, you may panic and assume that you are cursed and God is punishing you.  If God punished everyone for every mistake that they made the punishments would never stop and everyone who screws up would be dead by now.  You are in personal instruction mode and this is the best way to get your attention or it would not be happening.    What you can learn from being alone will be taught much faster if you will stop fighting it.  Most of the time a period of celibacy is a temporary thing and you will find companionship and affection again when you have recognized and broken through the illusions.  When it isn’t, in many cases, the person has discovered that they prefer the lifestyle and continue with it by their own choice, or they are refusing to come to terms with what they need to balance their life.  The point of every life experience is to help you become the person that you were meant to be.  If you want to be that, then life cannot hand you an impossible task because it is to that end that everything aspires.

I cannot tell you what your personal life reason for experiencing celibacy is.  Not without doing a psychic reading for you.  But I will say that many times you are suffering from a misunderstanding of the opposite sex or a misunderstanding of why you tend to choose the kind of partners that you do.  Misogynism tends to loom large in the need for an adjustment in your sexual attitude and we have seen an increase in this in the past few years that is reaching a level of imbalance that I have never witnessed before in my lifetime.

In an age of sexual saturation in the media, the need to understand how to navigate your way around pornography and what its existence has created in society is another likely element of why you have been pulled out of the sexual circle.  This has become so pervasive and so common place that it is a “college level” course in humanity and it is a tough nut to crack when you cannot easily escape it.  You most likely won’t though, unless you are taken out of the equation somehow.  If you own a television or a computer you will have it to some degree in your home whether you want it or not.  Let the universe guide you here.  If you find yourself feeling offended at what you see go with that feeling and let yourself be told how to handle it.  If you are not offended or troubled by what you see, you have some serious work to do because we are not here to use, abuse, hate, kill, or sabotage each other.  You already know that this is happening worldwide, but that those who engage in the behavior are seemingly getting away with it only shows that if you and others don’t break from the madness and try to redirect energy away from the trashing of the planet and the human race you will never see an end to the violence and misery that our culture is suffering from.  This truly is a situation where if you are not part of the solution you are part of the problem.

Another reason for experiencing celibacy can be that you are being protected from becoming involved with people who can only cause you more problems and grief.  Sometimes we are not in a position to interact with anyone who can benefit us.  If there is no one in your environment who can be complementary to your beliefs or lifestyle then you are better off to not become involved in a situation that has no benefit or value in your life.  Be glad that there is some built in protection for you from this because most people will attract the wrong people for karmic reasons and the fallout from their appearance can be devastating for a long time if you tend to ignore the danger signs that the universe provides you with.

Thank God that you have been taken aside and are being shown a way that you may contribute the the elimination of these seemingly insurmountable problems that humanity is facing.  Someone has to have the instinct and the ability to try to reverse the way we are behaving toward each other.  Even if all of your friends are good, kind, brave, truthful, and honest you can see that a large portion of the population is not and if you have been called  to stand aside for a moment in time and rethink your position then you are a part of the solution in some way that you may not be aware of right now.

If you are willing to listen, then you may discover that your place here is one of extreme importance.  Idiots are not called to the higher levels in this way.  You have an important contribution to life or you could not even comprehend what is calling upon your soul. People need you.  Society is coming apart at the seams, and those who recognize this will be damn glad that you are here and trying to make a difference, one person at a time.  A friend of mine was once very close to a mental break down at one point in his life and a very learned person told him that by getting himself together he could make a difference in so many lives by his example of getting beyond his personal grief.  He told him that there were people who were going to die without him taking control of himself and passing his experience on to others.  You truly must understand that without passing along your wisdom to others they are very likely to fall in to gender victimization traps and be completely unable to see past the sexual stranglehold that is wearing away our ability to interact with others in a sane and balanced way.   Relationships are becoming impossible. The victimizing and enslaving of children is going to make it impossible for the next generation to lead the world forward and create a society that can reverse the process that ours has put in place. We won’t see an end to what we have made of this world when our children are not learning how to not perpetuate it. Without each person taking responsibility for their own thoughts and actions humanity has no place to go except into collapse. If you don’t want to see this happen, don’t allow it.  You may only be one person,  but your example and refusal to cooperate with the destruction are powerful antidotes for a poisoned world.